Fatwa: # 41883
Category: Marriage (Nikah)
Country: United States
Date: 11th February 2019


Guidelines to Intimate Relations


Assalamualaikum, I had a few questions that I wanted to be answered. May Allah bless you brothers and help you with this great effort you guys are doing for this ummah.Ameen. 1) is it permissible for a man to give oral sex to his wife? 2) since a lot of the desi parents usually don’t like to talk about how to have sex with there spouses, so is there any book (preferably English ) which might explain such thing as to how to please a woman after marriage?


In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Aameen to your duas.

(1) The need for intimacy between spouses is natural.  However, it should be fulfilled with shame, modesty and dignity.  Whilst foreplay is permissible, it is not appropriate to engage in oral sex. [1]

(2) You may refer to the book ‘Islamic Guide To Sexual Relations’ authored by Mufti Muhammad ibn Adam Al-Kawthari Hafidhahullah.




And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Muhammad I.V Patel

Student Darul Iftaa
Lusaka, Zambia


Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.


الفتاوى الهندية - ط. دار الفكر (5/ 372) [1]

إذَا أَدْخَلَ الرَّجُلُ ذَكَرَهُ في فَمِ امْرَأَتِهِ قد قِيلَ يُكْرَهُ وقد قِيلَ بِخِلَافِهِ كَذَا في الذَّخِيرَةِ


المحيط البرهاني في الفقه النعماني (5/ 408)

إذا أدخل الرجل ذكره فم أمرأته فقد قيل: يكره؛ لأنه موضع قراءة القرآن، فلا يليق به إدخال الذكر فيه، وقد قيل بخلافه


فتاوی عثمانی جلد ٤  صفحہ ٤٠٥

پہلا عمل بلا کراہت جائز ہے، اور دوسرے عمل کی بھی گنجائش ہے، لیکن بعض فقھاء نے اس کو مکروہ کہا ہے۔

فتاویٰ رحیمیہ جلد ١٠  صفحہ١٧٩

اگر وہ صحبت کی درخواست کرنے میں شرم محسوس کرے اور شہوت سے مغلوب ہو کر مرد کے عضو مخصوص کو منہ میں لے لے تو معذوری ہے لیکن اس کی عادت کرلینا مکروہ ہے۔


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